Her controversial advice? If you want a family, you should spend the majority of your college career focused on finding a man. Naturally, it created such a ruckus that she decided to pen a book: Marry Smart since renamed Marry by Choice, Not by Chance. In its pages, she proclaims that women should spend 75 percent of their time on campus nailing down a husband because your happiness depends on it, and when else are you going to have that type of pool of highly educated single men? The notion of an “Mrs. Women today aren’t shelling out thousands of dollars and hours of studying simply in pursuit of Mr. I have my whole life in front of me, I insisted, so why would I want to meet the proverbial one now? Inwardly, though, somewhere deep in the crevices of my girlish hopes, I clung to the idea that, while I might not find him on campus, he would find me.
‘Princeton Mom’ tells women to plan for husband over career
Jump to navigation. The letter is so ridiculous that people can be forgiven for assuming that the Wall Street Journal and Patton are just trolling us. I met Patton myself once at Princeton and she definitely had the air of a well-meaning but zany matriarch with no verbal filter. But at worst, she perpetuates the worst stereotypes of both women and men. Just look at her language:. Last year, Patton came back to Princeton to speak to a crowd of skeptical and morbidly curious students.
Patton spoke on “Advice from a Princeton Mom” at Whig Hall April 18, even want to date and were not mature enough to imagine marrying.
Dear Mrs. Nicely played. And finally, you managed to turn a letter to the editor — not even a whole article! Not by the broader thesis, that if women want to get married and have children, doing so on the younger side has its benefits. We can overstate the case, to be sure. If you want to have 7 kids, you probably should start by your early 20s. If you want to have 2 — which most women do — it is quite possible to do that at, say, ages 33 and We do not immediately shrivel up.
Your early 20s do not have to be a mad dash. Princeton women have children at largely the same rate as other American women. I am, however, puzzled by the idea that focusing on finding a husband, and building a career, are pursuits that leave little space for each other.
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Princeton Mom Susan Patton is back. And yet, she is one of many reactionary women proffering equally backwards advice to young women, including a whole submissive wife movement. Many of her critics claim Patton is going back to the idea that women should go to college to earn a Mrs. Patton is suggesting that women prioritize husbands over professional ambition. But this is not because she thinks having a husband is the end-all in female achievement.
A Princeton alumna recently told women to get their MRS as an unsolicited advice from overbearing friends and relatives, a Princeton alumna is suggesting that female You have more options dating-wise than ever before.
When I read Susan A. Patton’s letter to the Daily Princetonian published on March 29, “Advice for the young women of Princeton: the daughters I never had,” I wasn’t particularly surprised by what she had to say. The idea of acquiring an MRS degree while at school isn’t exactly a new one; my mother had given similar, albeit more tactful, advice when I was in college. What did surprise me was that no one, in all of the various reaction pieces, pointed out that while “the universe of women” her sons could marry is “limitless,” the dating and marriage prospects at Princeton for those of us who are not visibly Princetonian, namely heteronormative, cis-gendered, and white, aren’t quite as great.
As an African-American woman, I found myself in a very small minority at Princeton in I remember sitting in the student center my freshman year with a group of friends, discussing our dating prospects. Having also been told that our “stock” would never be higher after freshman year someone said something about being “fresh meat,” which was disturbing in and of itself , we lamented our lack of dating options.
We had come up with a rough estimate of how many men were available as potential husbands in our class year in a very crude “flowchart” — and it showed how dismal our prospects were as minority women. This chart, now long-lost, accounted for the already taken men and the fact that we never saw our male engineering friends unless they took a break from studying ditto for the student-athletes.
‘Princeton Mom’ Susan Patton on why she rejects modern-day feminism
A letter to the editor featured late last week in a student newspaper has provoked such impassioned interest it may have literally crashed the newspaper website on which it is housed. The Daily Princetonian whose website is currently down published a letter Friday from Susan Patton, a Princeton University alumna who is also the mother of a current Princeton student and a young Princeton alum — both men.
Patton’s missive, aimed at Princeton women, offers “what you really need to know that nobody is telling you. In the letter, she urges female Princeton students to quickly find a suitable husband from among the university’s undergraduate male population. Here’s what nobody is telling you: Find a husband on campus before you graduate.
The Princeton Mom’s marriage advice book edits out two paragraphs paragraph about her initial motivation to give relationship advice and.
Just in time for Valentine’s Day, “Princeton Mom” Susan Patton is doling out relationship advice — and causing a stir on the Internet — once again. Patton, who graduated from Princeton University in , also cautions that well-educated women looking for equally cultured counterparts will have an even more difficult time finding a suitable mate, because smart men don’t mind dating women that are not of the same educational background.
Those men who are as well educated as you are often interested in younger, less challenging women. So what’s a smart, Shakespeare-reading single lady to do? Also keep in touch with male college friends, and don’t “offer intimacy without commitment. Much of her advice echoes the same points she made last March in an open letter for the Daily Princetonian that quickly went viral — and netted Patton a book deal.
She’s still of the mind that college is the best place to pick up a long-term mate, because, “Once you’re living off campus and in the real world, you’ll be stunned by how smart the men are not,” she says. Of course, she does offer some hope for those who have already kissed their college years goodbye: “Don’t worry — there’s always graduate school,” she writes at the end of her piece. The post has spawned hundreds of comments and many a rebuttal column online, with some comparing her to an Internet troll and others saying young women don’t need her outmoded dating advice.
Scores of people took to Twitter to voice their reactions, which range from bemused to infuriated to, in a couple of cases, supportive. Patton’s book, “Smarten Up! Follow today.
Princeton mom to female students: ‘Find a husband on campus’
Credit: Susan Patton. Jewish men love Asian women. Patton hates the idea of political correctness so much, she devotes an entire chapter to disparaging it in her book. It means wrong — cloaked in a tacit acceptance of these untruths by spineless people hoping to look benevolent, forward-thinking and progressive. Politically correct means wrong. It would be entirely inaccurate to say Patton puts her foot in her mouth.
Susan Patton, a Princeton mom who lit up the internet last year with her unsolicited dating advice for college women, is back with a Wall Street.
Less than one year after that initial media circus, and several weeks after one wisely timed repeat performance in a Wall Street Journal op-ed last month, Patton has returned with a full-length book version of her original advice, Marry Smart: Advice for Finding the One. The month turnaround suggests a rush to capitalize on her brush with the limelight, and indeed the quality of the book does seem as slapdash as could be expected.
My boyfriend, a state school grad, writes text messages more finely crafted and coherent than her latest admonition to seek out husbands with Ivy League degrees. During my single years in New York City, I spent considerably more time working and considering my career options than dating or angling to meet new men. Patton clearly tries to preemptively extinguish criticism about the sexist roots of her advice by repeatedly assuring us that her advice is only for women who want to have children and “something resembling a traditional marriage.
The only wise tidbits are so trite they hardly needed to be reiterated yet again — e. Here are the 10 worst pieces of dating advice from Marry Smart — and trust me, there was plenty of bad advice from which to choose:. A man should be choosing to be with you because he appreciates your company, shares your values, and even, heck, actually loves you. Besides, a study revealed that 95 percent of Americans had engaged in premarital sex, and yet far more than 5 percent are married, so it sure seems like a lot of guys are indeed investing in cows of their very own despite access to free milk.
This suggests that most men have motives other than finally obtaining sex from a recalcitrant girlfriend when they choose to take the plunge. Doctors typically recommend that weight-loss surgery for teens should be considered only when serious obesity-related health complications have arisen, not for cosmetic reasons.
Advice of ‘Princeton Mom’ reveals a mother talking to herself
A s a rule, you should be skeptical of anyone offering advice about anything — including me, and including this sentence. No other sub-genre of self-help seems so prone to confused reasoning, conflicts of interest or folk wisdom masquerading as science. Everyone has ulterior motives. Significantly, the bias was stronger among those who considered their situation most permanent.
Would she have been happier that way?
“The Princeton Mom” and Author of Marry Smart, Advice for Finding The One Susan Patton is also known as “The Princeton Mom” She is a native New Yorker,.
A woman known as the “Princeton Mom” has offended a great deal of people with her advice in the new book, “Marry Smart. Your fertility won’t. So yes, I’m saying, double down. Spend 75 percent of time planning your personal happiness, putting in place the things you need to ensure you reach your personal goals. My advice is for women who know what they want, that part of their life goal is to have children in a traditional marriage.
You’re not getting any younger, you have to get to this, you have to plan for it. Patton is a Princeton alum and has two sons who also graduated from the school. She became famous for writing a letter to her alma mater suggesting that women worry less about academics and more about finding a husband. It was advice that set of a frenzy of debate and led to a book deal for Patton, who expands upon her advice in her book.
That’s not a competition in which you’re likely to fare well,” Patton wrote in her letter entitled ” A Little Valentine’s Day Straight Talk. Please spare me your ‘Blaming the victim’ outrage. Faith Needs A Foundation.
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A few years ago the notorious “Princeton Mom,” Susan Patton, took the As I started to play the college dating game, the glimmer began to glow full of ‘man boys,’ and hooking up, Patton’s advice doesn’t just set up most.
Jeff Brady. A letter to the editor in The Daily Princetonian urging female students to find a husband before they graduate has drawn criticism. More than a week after Susan Patton’s letter to the editor of The Daily Princetonian prompted heated criticism, the Princeton alumna says she still stands by her words.
In her letter, Patton wrote to young women attending her alma mater, “Find a husband on campus before you graduate. Patton is the divorced mother of two sons — both “Princetonians. But, she argues, Princeton women should marry a man who is their intellectual equal. She goes on to argue that the supply of such men dwindles as Princeton women get older. Patton advises young women to look for a husband now because “you will never again have this concentration of men who are worthy of you. Koppol says Patton’s language seems out of place in today’s world; others on campus agree.
Ramey says Patton raises important issues, though, such as balancing personal and professional lives. But she says those discussions already were taking place on campus.
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Susan A. The book expands on her very blunt message to female co-eds. Is there hope for me?
“Princeton Mom” Susan Patton has penned “Marry Smart,” a book of dating advice for young women. Anne Wermiel. Last year, Susan Patton.
For years decades, really we have been bombarded with advice on professional advancement, breaking through that glass ceiling and achieving work-life balance. We can figure that out — we are Princeton women. If anyone can overcome professional obstacles, it will be our brilliant, resourceful, very well-educated selves. The problem she raises is real! Look at all the dating sites educated with women with high expectations.
Spinsters are the new order of American demographic. Biology is confirming that women without children are not only unhappy but die sooner. Really no joke! Women who never wanted children are just fine. Frankly, I would not want to live as long if I had children. I knew when I was 16 I never wanted chidlren.